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20 Questions

I was tagged by Buge. I haven’t done this in a looooonnggg time.

Here are the rules: Remove one (1) question from below and add in your personal question, make it a total of 20 questions, then tag eight. List them out at the end of this post.

1. Who do you miss the most right now?
My parents.

2. My question: Past or present, who would you consider the greatest love of your life?
SG.

3. Ever thought of going away just to be alone? What do you have in mind?
I’m always alone so this isn’t something unusual. I would like to go to Isla Naburot in Guimaras, enjoy nature, get away from the trappings of city life.

4. Where is the place that you want to go the most?
I would love to tour Asia.

5. Which part of you that you hate the most?
My fats... I have lots, all over!!

6. When you encounter a sad moment, what would you do?
Try not to dwell, I think there is always a right place and a right time to be sad.

7. What are you afraid to lose the most?
What am I afraid to lose the most? My eyesight and my teeth!

8. If you win $1 million, what would you do?
Pay off debts, save most of it, ask my parents to come back home, take my entire family to a trip out of the country.

9. What do you loved the most last year (2007)?
New year's eve, I was with my siblings and their families.

10. List out 3 good points of the person who tagged you:
Down to earth, caring and sweet Buge.

11. How do you cope with boredom?
I sleep, watch TV, read blogs or chat. Not necessarily in that order.

12. Till now, what is the moment that you regret the most?
Not finishing that thing I started, my source of pride.

13. Which type of person do you hate the most?
Dishonest people.

14. What is your ambition?
To be a mom? Bleah!

15. If you had one wish, what would you wish for?
Lose 40 lbs and keep it off! I wish!

16. How did you celebrate new year?
Spent new year’s eve at my sister’s place. We did not have a big celebration but I was happy to be with my siblings and nephews.

17. It is already 2008, do you have a new year’s resolution?
I don't make resolutions but I do have some goals.

18. What do you look forward to in 2008?
A better Fiona, a happier Fiona.

19. If your life is a song, what title best fit it?
Make mistake number 3. Hehehe.

20. What is the most important to you, besides your family?
Myself of course!

I’m tagging Jomz, Mek, Maire, Karengkeng, Pearljem, Grifter, Jegolan, my namesake Fiona

Chismis

My maternal grandmother has been bedridden for about a month now. I've seen how her state of mind deteriorated in less than a year. She’s now getting weaker every day.

My uncle and auntie have been taking care of her. Nahihirapan din sila kasi they are also old and sick. Last week, I called a relative, an aunt in the province, and asked her if she could find a maid to take care of my lola. She said she will try. I told her how my lola is, told her she is bedridden with bed sores na. These are signs that she may go soon. But her spirit is stronger than her body. Nakakasigaw pa sya.

Last Sunday, I got a text message from my aunt from the province saying that she heard from another relative that my lola is in coma. My aunt wants to know if she would still have to look for a maid. I was in a shock, I did not know if I should get upset or if I should laugh.

I wanted to laugh because in spite of the supposedly condition of my lola, my relative was more concerned our arrangement with the maid. Nakupo! Displaced priorities or concerns?

I wanted to get upset because I was not sure the story was true. I had a feeling the person who relayed the message made an automatic assumption that my lola is in a coma and passed on this story to another relative. I got more upset when I tried to call people but their phones were either unattended or turned off. I could not call my uncle or auntie who were taking care of my lola because I did not want them to know where the story came from, it might offend them specially my uncle. I had to leave work a little early to check what's happening. Buti na lang my brother's phone was turned on so I was able to ask him to call my auntie to ask if Lola's ok. He texted me later saying lola is still the same. I was glad to hear that but I was still upset over the coma story. I informed my sister as soon as she got home from church. She told me that earlier she called another relative and told her how our lola is doing. She mentioned to her that lola is bedridden and did not mention anything about her being in a coma. I told her I had a feeling someone changed the story. My sister had to call a cousin to tell our relative that Lola is bedridden and not in a coma.

Although I know that the person who changed the word "bedridden" to "comatose" from the story had no bad intentions when she said that. Still, this is no excuse to be irresponsible with your words or relaying stories that are untrue and potentially hurtful. I was afraid my uncle would learn of this and get upset. Worse, my mom would hear of this and get really upset. She is abroad and she feels helpless there. I do not want her to get upset over chismis like this.

This is the work of idle minds. When people with minds are not preoccupied with more important things, they tend to create stories from nothing. Some of my relatives have been idle for a long time, no work, no play, just plain day to day nothingness. What's even worse is that they people they have been mingling with are not good influences. My relative's circle of friends have been encouraging her to take part in idle talk and destructive ideas or thoughts. Hay naku...

Remember, people will judge you by your actions, not your intentions. You may have a heart of gold -- but so does a hard-boiled egg.

- Anonymous

4 Aces Hula (Divination)

I met up with my friend Blu this afternoon. I haven't seen her in years. She invited her former co-worker Ysa to join us. Blu broke up with her 7 year GF so we had a lot of catching up to do. During the course of the kuwentuhan, she mentioned that Ysa saw in her cards that her GF has a man in her life. Ergo, Ysa knows how to make hula (divination) using ordinary playing cards.

After a while I teased Ysa to show me how she makes hula. She uses the four Aces technique. Natawa ako. This was the kind of hulaan we did in high school. Katuwaan lang, nothing serious. I was able to learn how the hula works. Pagdating ng college, I was giving hula to my blockmates. The cards I used were half the size of the regular playing cards, in pink with a My Melody design on one side. You would think tarot cards gagamitin ko pero kuwidaw, orig na My Melody ang akin! Hehehe.

Like I said, we did it for katuwaan. Yun lang there were times medyo close to accurate yung hula ko. I never gave it much thought since I was thinking my hula was close to home due to the fact that I knew my friends well.

I haven't done the hula for almost 20 years now. For some reason, I forgot what some of the cards stood for.

I just find it amusing that there are a few people who knew how to use the 4 Aces hula. Of course, there are different nuances to ever card, different ways of interpreting the card positons, etc. Ysa's style was somewhat different from mine, even the choosing which cards to pick up first was kinda "different". But the basic principles were there.

Blu asked to be read twice then I asked Ysa to read my cards. Yung katok ko pa lang sa cards sabi nya mabigat, meaning I still have strong feelings (either love or hate) for the person. After all the seremonyas, she told me that I still have feelings for the person I knocked my cards for, he doesn't feel the same way for me though (ouch!). She saw another woman getting in the way (another ouch!) but she also saw another man who is established financially/rich whom I was considering. Ok... Not bad. Close to accurate.

Blu asked for 1 more reading. Then Ysa asked to be read by Blu since Blu already knows how to read the cards, sa dinami dami ba naman ng beses na nagpahula sya! Hehehe.

After she read Ysa's cards, I asked Blu to read my cards to check if the same thing would appear. Lo and behold! She gave me the same reading/interpretation. I never mentioned the name of the person and if I was requesting the reading for the same person but the same thing appeared. May lumabas lang about money or career but the other woman and other man with money showed up.

Aliw!

I will look for play cards here and do the reading myself. Hehehe.

Let's talk about sex: Sex Education

This song is dedicated to , Ching, JC Smith, Grifter and Manilenya. I would encourage the readers to please listen to the song while reading the rest of my story.

My sister sent me a message as soon as she saw me online. She said that their home PC's desktop had some anime... porn anime! I don't know if it's hentai or not. Apparently she was flabbergasted by the discovery and the fact that her eldest son wouldn't admit to downloading the porn. I was grinning while she was telling me the story. I told her, "well, he's a warm blooded boy!" I guess this made her think a bit and she said, "At least he's not gay. I told hubby to take it easy on him. It's just normal diba?" Of course.

I wasn't surprised if my sister and her husband's initial reactions were shock and distress, I would think all parents would have the same reaction. Parents need to have the right perspective on this kind of situation. We all went to through this stage of sexual curiosity, probably not all of us but most of us at this stage of puberty started to wonder, to look around and discover things that amazed us. Do you remember the time you saw nude pictures of the opposite sex or the first time you read a porn magazine? If you remember that time and remember how it felt, then you should know how your kid feels now. You need to understand and accept that sexual curiosity is normal.

Parents should discuss sex with their children by the onset of puberty and parent's should discuss this topic sensibly and with some level of accuracy of facts. Giving teenagers the wrong idea or information may screw up their kid's psyche.

When I was in 4th year high school, I used to hang out with 4 girls from my batch but from different sections. One of my barkada had a bf, she was the only one in our group to have one. Anyway, one day she appeared a bit uneasy and troubled. We asked her what was bugging her, she said she is in trouble because she may be pregnant. We were all shocked! Pregnant at 16 and weeks away from graduation. We asked her how it happened. She said that one night, her mom went to bed early. Her bf went to their house to spend time with her. They talked and talked till it reached to a point that the guy kissed her. Then we asked her what happened next, she said that was it, they just kissed and now she could be pregnant. We all laughed at her story. We told her that no one gets pregnant by kissing. She said her mother told her that if a man kissed a woman, the woman will get pregnant. We laughed even harder at this story. We insisted that her mother's story is not true. I asked her how she passed 2nd year Biology class without knowing anything about reproduction. She said she knows text book information on reproduction but it seemed all just rote knowledge. We asked her if she did some torrid lip locking with her bf, she said it was just a peck on the cheek. We assured her that she wasn't pregnant at all and she can graduate and go on with her life. A classic! The story is funny but I learned a few years ago that some parents really tell their kids (girls) that kissing can make them pregnant. Akala ko joke, totoo pala!

But what if my friend didn't open up to us about her "dilemma" and she just assumed that she's pregnant, what would she have done? Her mother is known for her controlling and dominating nature, kinda having a closedmind and probinsya mentality. I'm pretty sure my friend was seriously worried that time. Would she have told her mother? Would she have asked her bf to marry her or elope with her? Would she have killed herself? She would probably have gotten married at an early age. I think her family would have immediately assumed she's really pregnant, no questions asked. This is how parents screw their kids' minds.

Another funny story I heard from my cousin is that of her married friends' sex life, or no sex life for that matter. She has this couple friends who attend the same religious organization with her, they are laking Manila and studied in good schools here. They were complaining that they could not get pregnant. So my cousin who is a doctor, asked them questions and she discovered that they were not having sex often. Kaya naman pala! How can they get pregnant if they have sex once a month? I'm not sure if I remember her story right but I think the couple's idea of sex is strictly for pro-creation and having sex for any other purpose is WRONG. Bwahahaha! I think she tried to explain to her friends that sex is a good thing for married couples and that they need to have frequent sex inorder to increase their chances of getting pregnant but they seemed closed minded. This is how religion screws up people's minds.

This reminds me of how some sectors of society blocked the ruling on having sex education in public schools. I think that schools can be a good venue for students to learn sex. Hopefully, schools can provide an objective and clean approach to teaching sex. HOPEFULLY. Of course, it's still best practice to have the parents talk to their kids about sex, that is if the parents do not give false information or try to scare their kids from having sex at all. Besides, a lot of parents do not feel comfortable discussing sex with their kids. I certainly do not agree that the church or any organized form or religion should start campaigning about the dangers of sex and all that churkiness.

Good luck!


Image by Free-StockPhotos.com

Rain

It rained quite hard and for a long time very early this morning, more like dawn. 3 hours non stop?

Heaven must have been crying with someone out there, hard and long, non stop mouring.

Tears are supposed to show sadness or grief. Too much rain can be a source of grief or sorrow. But then tears, just like rain, can also be for cleansing and healing.

May the tears there were shed be a source of cleansing and healing.



"Cry if you have to and let the tears wash away the bitterness that you feel. Look back and smile for somewhere in the past, love has found a home in your heart. Life doesn't end where our heartaches begin. It only ends when we give up on ourselves and the love that we have in our hearts."


"In love, some people think that it's holding on that makes us strong; but sometimes it's letting go. Goodbye may seem a lot more Hello's... and so we have to let go and we should know when to finally end up a chapter in our life to be able to give way for a new one."

Cocky Wave 3

More blogs and a kinky post

I haven't been feeling up to posting anything interesting lately. I have ideas, lots of them but I just do not have the drive to start writing once I'm infront of my pc.

I have an idea about another sex and consequence churky but I'm still feeling low, too low to start it.

After I quit work, I tried my best go visit all the blogs on my list and have added a few more. Some of you may wanna visit these blogs:

My sister's blog
Buge's blog
Jego's blog

Buge and Jego are my friends from way back. My sister is, well, my siser of course. Hehehe.


Jego's latest post is most interesting. I wouldn't be surprised if he would one day show himself to us in tight fitting leather pants and shirt with his big bike. Hehehe.

Stressed

Stress according to Wikipedia:

In medical terms, stress is a physical or psychological stimulus that can produce mental or physiological reactions that may lead to illness.Technically speaking, stress is a disruption of homeostasis, which may be triggered by alarming experiences, either real or imaginary.[1][2]

Distress is the most commonly-referred to type of stress, having negative implications, whereas eustress is a positive, desirable form of stress. Both can be equally taxing on the body, and are cumulative in nature.

I've going through a lot of stressful situations lately, both positive and negative. Even the positive changes in my life are causing negative efffects on my body. I hope I survive with minimal damage to my system.

I need the change because my sub conscious has already warned me of the possible effects of homeostasis, and of not helping myself first before I help others.

*gulp*

22 yr old killed after being drawn into deceptive cyber romance

I'm sure a lot of people have seen this image:



I was reminded of this when I read about this news of this 22 year old kid who was killed over a deceitful cyber relationship.

An 18 year old Marine who was preparing for deplyoment has been constantly chatting with a young attractive lady who sent him pictures of her, even her lingerie.
In reality, the man Thomas Montgomery is actually a 47 year old married man while the woman is in her 40s and was sending out pics of her daughter. The wife intercepted one gift coming from the woman and she sent her a letter saying Montgomery had fooled her because he's 47 and married.
The woman remembered Montgomery's co worker, 22 year old Brian Barrett, so she called him at work to ask if Montgomery is really married and all. From here on they became friends and was in constant contact with each other. Inspite of what happened between her and Montgomery, they remained friends. She even told him that Barrett's been her communicating with her on a regular basis. This got Montgomery jealous. He shot Barrett .30-caliber rifle at close range.

Here's the twist: little did both men know, this supposedly 20-something attractive lady is actually a 40plus woman sending pics of her daughter! Hah!
Montgomery's wife has filed for divorce and it seems she and her kids have left their conjugal home in suburban Cheektowaga, where Miss 40plus sent Montgomery her lingerie that got intercepted by the wife.

Strange twist of fate. This is what you get for lying and cheating. I hope Mark reads this.

News courtesy of Houston Chronicle
Image from carcino.net.nz

The End of My Rosy Life

The Korea Novela My Rosy Life will end today. My initial reaction to Korean soap was kinda like, "Ok, another Korea novela. Puro love stories, drama, iyakan, etc. I'm sure this one will have a happy ending just like the rest. So what else is new?"

Betsy is the lead character here. The martyr wife, mother, sister, daughter, daughter-in-law, friend. She made sure everything was in order, she was always on top of the situation, sacrificing her own life and personal happiness. When she was only 12 I think, her mother left them. She had to take care of her 2 other siblings and also her father. This probably is the reason why she wants to please everyone, para hindi sya iwan. As long as everyone is happy and gets what they want, she was also happy. Dahil dito napabayaan nya sarili nya. Her husband, Ramon left her for a younger and sexier woman. She did everything to make things work, she even tried to improve her looks, but to no avail because Ramon was set on leaving her. She tried to put up a business; she invested their life savings with her friends na literally na kinuha ng friend nya at tinakbuhan sya. She had a physical breakdown, which led to the discovery of her stage 3 stomach cancer.

From here on puro iyakan na. Ako madalas puffy ang mga mata ko because the her situation, her reaction to her disease, the reaction of the people around her. Betsy's major concern was not that of dying but preparing herself and everyone around her for her death. She begged her doctor to help her live because her kids need her. Her sister Kelly who wanted to do everything to help Betsy and show how much she loved her, how she cried when she learned of Betsy's cancer and her frustration towards Ramon when he insisted on not telling Betsy how bad her cancer is. Umupo sa sahig at umiyak si Kelly while telling Ramon they needed to tell Betsy para nga naman she could prepare herself and her kids. Initially he kept blaming himself for what happened to his daughter. Kita ang sadness sa mukha even in his silence you could feel his sorrow especially when Betsy bid him farewell for the last time, sinundan pa nya ng tingin si Betsy at Ramon as they walked away from his house. Yung mga anak nila, they promised to be good wag lang mawala si Betsy. She knew she was going to die soon so she and Ramon left the house so no one would see her die, no one would see her dead. She wanted everyone to remember her alive. They left around dawn so the kids wouldn't see them leave. She didn't want to kiss them goodbye but she couldn't keep herself from kissing and hugging her children before they left. This scene was very touching to me kasi nga maiisip mo if you were in her situation, you would want to kiss and hug your kids as much as you can because you won't be able to do these things anymore. You would want to savor every minute that you have with your kids and tell them how much you love them. You would feel sad because you won't see your kids grow up, become successful in life, get married, you won't see your grandchildren.

I've been wanting to blog about this show but I had other concerns. Now I'm having a hard time finishing this blog post without getting emotional.

I understand Betsy, I've been there.

My Cuz Blogs!

Na engganyo na mag blog cousin ko. She said it has become addicting. Hehehehe. Welcome to the wacky world of blogging KPJ!

Happy Anniversary!

On November 9, 1996, my boss a pentium Aptiva at MegaMall. Yung Aptivia nya P133, 1GB ang HD capacity, RAM is 16MB pa. His PC was high tech then, 10 years ago. He got a subscription with Virtual Asia there, his ISP, 18 hours for P500.

This was 10 years ago.

10 years na pala akong internet addik! Hahahaha!

Wave 23 A

This is what we do in our call center training. We take pictures and make fools of ourselves.
Guess who our trainer here is.

Para sa mga Lalaki at Babae

Got this from Miss Abbie

PARA SA MGA TANGANG LALAKE AT MAGAGANDANG BABAE TULAD NATIN

Before, hinahabol kita pero di mo ako pinapansin. Tapos isang araw nawala ako, hinanap mo ako at tinanong, "Bakit ka nagsawa?" Ngumiti ako, "Hindi ako nagsawa. Natauhan lang." Pwede mo kong lokohin pero wag kang magpapahuli sakin. Pwede mo kong palitan pero siguraduhin mong mas mahal mo siya sakin. Pwede mo kong iwan pero siguraduhin mong kaya mo. Kasi pag ako sobrang nasaktan, wala ka nang babalikan.

Ang Boys? Pag trip ka, magpapakilala. Kaibigan kuno hanggang pumorma na. Tapos pag nahulog ka na, ayun, goodbye na dahil sawa na sila. Pero dapat walang iiyak at smile lang tayo. Punyeta, anong silbi ng karma?

I fell in love and got hurt but I didn't shed too much tears nor did I ask him to love me again. Instead, I stood up proudly and said, "Ganyan talaga ang magaganda! Hindi bagay sa tanga!" Simple lang para hindi ka masaktan. Kapag minahal ka, mahalin mo din. Kapag ginago ka, gaguhin mo rin. Pero kapag umiyak ka, tanga ka! Ginago ka na nga, iiyakan mo pa? Pag iniwan ka ng mahal mo, wag mo siyang sisihin! Kausapin mo siya ng harap-harapan at sabihin mong, "Ingat, tanga ka pa naman!" Masakit pag iniwan ka ng mahal mo. Pero wag kang magagalit ng husto. Kahit papano may pinagsamahan naman kayo, diba? Kaya for the last time yakapin mo siya at ibulong mo, "Gago, kukulamin kita!"
Girls, talo daw sayo sa mga boys? Papayag kayo? Sige, pag niligawan tayo, sagot agad. Pag iniwan tayo? Ok lang. Kapag sinabi nilang, "Uy, ex ko." Alam niyo sagot diyan? "Ay, ambisyoso."

If the one you love doesn't love you back, don't get depressed. Just think about it for a while, maybe cry a bit then wipe your tears and say, "Ang weird naman niya. Di siya pumapatol sa magaganda!" You only got one life so live it well., one heart so take good care, one soul so keep it pure. One boyfriend? What a waste! Make it two or more! Sayang ganda natin!

Pag sinabi sayo ng mahal mo na ayaw na niya sayo, hayaan mo lang. Wag kang iiyak at magpapakagago! Imbis na iyakan mo siya, ngitian mo lang at sabihin mo ang ganito, "So, pano? Bye na!Naghihintay na ang kapalit mo!" Who cares about break-ups? Oo nga, masakit. Makirot sa puso. Pero tandaan mo: a break-up isn't only an end to a relationship. It's also a beginning of a new one and an end to a living hell called "ex".

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A woman who seeks to be equal with men lacks ambition!

I Hate Death!

I hate death!
I abhor going to wakes and funerals. I feel like if I open my mouth, something inappropriate would just spill out and make me look stupid or offend the family of the deceased. But I know I have to go to these "social" events.
The mom of one of my students passed away Sunday morning. She succumbed to cancer. Mr Santos asked me if I'm that close to the kid since I told him I will be dropping by the wake today. I told him that he's a student, that makes me close to him. Besides, I'm sure his family will appreciate my presence, a sign of support. But what do I say to him and his family? I didn't even meet his mom; it was his uncle who talked to me all the time since the mom's bedridden.
Hay buhay! This is very akward. I dont know what to expect; I don't know what to say. I just feel sorry for my student.
I hate death. Whether it's someone else's death or mine. I'm surely not looking forward to mine anytime soon!

P3,000 Servant?

Why is it that some people think they own you just because they pay you for your services?

A mom sent me an sms asking me what time I'm going to the center. I told her I'm not sure if I would go since everyone is on vacation. She never responded. Then she sent a msg to my partner who forwared it to me. I asked her:

Isn't ur son on a vacation till Sun? R u thinking of having him tutored on sembreak? Walang tutorials kc this week kc sembreak, even teachers have breaks. :-)

To this she responded:

Yeah i know. But D holidays are only til yrtrday. Isnt dat enough break 4 d teachrs? S (her son's name) has a story 2 memorze and its due on wednsday.
Anywy, i'l just b d one 2 guide him. Tnx.

I was about to tell her "sige kita tayo early tomorrow" but when I took another look at her msg, I felt bad. She sent another msg saying I'm the only one who can make his son memorize stuff very well but I didn't want to react anymore. I wanted to say things that would definitely put her in her place but I had to control myself, my partner might suffer.

She has always been "demanding" but I would comply in my own little way to avoid problems. She acts and talks as if I'm cheating her by not doing some small things for her son or that I purposely disregard certain work para makapandaya ako. I would tell my partner baka sinusulit lang ang bayad nya kaya sya ganyan and we would both grin. But her message really set me off. Just because she pays me P3,000 to tutor her son, doesnt give her the right to treat me like a servant, hindi nya ako pinapalamon. I'm only human and I make mistakes at times, doesn't mean dinadaya ko sya sa serbisyong binibigay ko.

Well, if she can find a tutor who can give better service at a lower price than I do then she can always transfer her kid there.
Geez!

To Blu

Last Sunday's My Favorite Line on Philippine Star caught my eye. It's from The Breakup Diaries by Maya Calica:

"At some point you will learn that no matter how hard you play by the rules, make all the right moves, and try to be the Ms. Perfect, you don't always get the results you hope for."

My cuz and I discussed how we prayed for the right man to come into our lives but we still got duds. I remember asking for signs that would make me realize that he's not the one, but I was blinded by love, there were signs yet I refused to see them. There was one time I prayed that if he and I were not meant to be then the Lord would find a way out for me from the relationship and that He would remove the love that I felt for him. The Lord did find a way out for me but removing the love I felt was hard. I still ended up accepting him inspite of all the things he did to me. Then when he lied to me again I was mad at the Lord for letting him back into my life. I blamed Him for introducing him to me in the first place.

Funny, when you're in that position, you refuse to see the truth. I knew then that by praying this way, I won't get the right answer. But I kept praying this way, still hoping my prayer would work. You know what's wrong with this prayer? By asking God to give you the "right man" or showing you "signs" or asking Him to do things for you, you are saying "God, I don't want to be responsible for my palpak choices so I leave everything up to You. If something goes wrong, hindi ko kasanalan ok?" We may not say thing verbatim but this is really what we want to happen: we don't want to be responsible for our actions.

Being Godly, or religious or prayerfull or spiritual doesn't make anyone of us better or won't spare us from making the wrong choices or getting hurt by other people. God has given all of us free will, so we would make our own decisions. We have the capacity to make the right choices, to do what's best for us. Of course we are allowed to make mistakes, we are only human. Yun lang, praying or being a good girl doesn't guarantee us a happy life. Specially if we think good things will happen to us by doing good deeds.

We have people around us who support us and give us a different perspective of things, but we don't want to listen to them because we think they don't want us to be happy. When someone gives us a valuable piece of advice, if it doesn't feel good or it doesn't fit the picture we see through our rose colored spectacles, we dismiss it as paninira or unimportant.
How many times have I tried to warn you na duda ako sa kanya? Hindi ba when your sister gave you a piece of advice nagalit ka and you said she doesnt understand you and she doesnt want you to be happy? Natangsit ka gamin. I told you not to get intouch with him anymore but you did. You called him up and what did he do to you? He hung up on you and he kept rejecting your call. I don't want to have to say to you "I told you so..."

You know why the same thing happened to both of us? To teach us a lesson, to open our eyes. Dasal tayo ng dasal pero hindi naman natin binubuksan mga mata natin sa katotohanan at wala naman tayong ginagawa to make things right. There were signs but we refused to accept them since these signs were telling us what we didn't want to know, they were telling us of impending doom that we couldn't accept, so we had to suffer. Sabi ni Lord, "Ayaw mo makinig? Puwes, magdusa ka!" Tough love works for us because we are stubborn. We learn things the hard way.

I hope may natutunan ka sa nangyari sa iyo. I know I sound like making sermon but I just want you to learn this now, I'm afraid he might show up and ask you back tapos tanggapin mo sya. Mahihirapan ka lang. Don't make the same mistakes I made. You might end up tough and bitter.



No Man is worth a womans tears. The only one whos worth her tears is the one who knows he could but would never, ever make her cry.

Online Daters Beware!

This article is somewhat close to my heart. The story of the woman here is kinda familiar, I know a man who lies to women online and is from VA. Read on.


by Sherry Amatenstein

The Internet dating stigma no longer exists, and it's about time. But just because looking for love online is more mainstream, that doesn't mean you should let your guard down completely. After all, it may be easier to meet that special someone -- but it's also easier to be deceived by someone else's special someone masquerading as a bachelor. How can you avoid falling for a married man's cyber line? And what are the warning signs that the guy on the other end of the cute emails is otherwise engaged? Take note of these tips.

Cybersex, Lies and Video Tape

Jill Jones discovered the hard way that the boyfriend she'd met three months earlier through Match.com was married: His wife called! Jill, a 27-year-old Washington, DC, marketing executive explains, "Since he lived in a different city -- Roanoke, Virginia -- it was easy for him to sneak around." She says, "Although he made excuse after excuse about why he continually had to cancel a date at the last minute -- one time claiming he'd been in a car accident -- I got suspicious only after I knew everything." There had been numerous red flags. For instance, he only called from his cell phone while driving in his car. It turns out that Joe (not his real name) was talking to several women online. According to his wife, Jill was the only one he'd actually met and kissed. [Editors' note: Awkward conversation, anyone?] Jill recalls, "He contacted me a few weeks after he was busted and said how much he cared for me and that his marriage was on the rocks. Blah, blah, blah. I hung up."

I hope MarkD is reading this.

A Woman's Prayer

For my single friends...

As I close my eyes and open my soul in prayer
To ask for the one who will bring me joy,
I ask that he will be strong enough to hold me when I am weak
And gentle enough to wipe the tears from my eyes.
Let my cheek fit perfectly in the crook of his neck
So when he embraces me we are two pieces of a puzzle complete.
Make his smile at the sound of my voice to make me believe
That I am the only woman on earth.
Make him handsome and winning, give him a sense of humor
So he can make me laugh when I feel like crying,
And give him the sensitivity to protect me
Even from the imaginary creatures that haunt me.
Make him unafraid to show the child inside of him.
When he enters a room, let him be graceful yet masculine.
Let him shine, even if only in my eyes.
Give him the intelligence to speak to my mind, my heart and my soul.
Let his words and his love enter my being like a food to a starving soul.
Give him a gentle touch, a strong voice and a loving embrace.
Let him love my mother and father as his own
And let them love him as their son.
Allow his shoulders to be wide enough to carry
The burdens of the wicked world, with a good heart and an understanding soul.
Give him a direction and ambition and give him the initiative
To freely seek that which he desires and needs in this life.
Let him accept me for who I am, and yet
Let him point out my mistakes while conceding that he is not perfect.
Make him considerate, even when others are not watching.
Make him my friend first, and a lover second.
But most of all, let him embrace my God, as I know how to embrace Him.
Make him unashamed to turn to Him in joyous moments and in sad.
Let us be reborn in Him a single soul encompassing two bodies,
And let us love Him in peaceful harmony.