She Comes First, Then Again And Again...

I've been keeping an eye on a friend of mine, giving her love life a close watch. Her BF treated her badly and she never enjoyed having sex with him. He even told her point blank that she's a poor lay. She couldnt break up with him because of her poor self esteem, her life revolved around him. How many times has it happened that he broke up with her but he begged him back? Finally they cooled off for a few months. This gave her time to think.
One day she started going out with this guy who has been hounding her. She gave in. To make the long story short, she now knows how an orgasm feels, what it's like to have a man give her pleasure. I asked her if she was required by this guy to do anything for him in return, she said the guy just wanted her to relax and recieve pleasure from him and not do anything. Now she can't stop thinking about him and what he has done to her. She saw this alleged video of Heart Evangelista and it reminds her of what she did, how she moaned and groaned with pleasure, how she gripped his arms as he was giving it to her.
Last night she had to excuse herself after telling me her story because she needed to take a shower kasi mainit raw katawan niya. I teased her, told her how to touch herself while in the shower and she got even hotter and more bothered. Hehehe.
I told her that her lover apparently knows how to make love to her. He knows how to make a woman feel good starting from foreplay to afterplay. I told her that once she's tried great sex, she's never going back to lousy sex again. She's a bit worried because she feels her BF might want her back and she doesn't know what to do: if she should take him back, if and when that happens how to explain to him her new sexual apetite, and of course what to do with her new lover. She wants more of that mind boggling, titirik ang mata mo sa sarap sex. Hahaha!

Ka Uro, hindi naman po lahat ng Pinoy bad in bed so don't worry I believe you. Pero tanungin ko kaya si Mrs. Uro just to be sure? Hehehe.

MEC well Pinoys are great romancers, malambing, magaling mag woo ng babae. But in bed ewan ko lang. I guess culture has something to do with this. My friend Tekla has her own way of describing most Pinoy lovers. Using both hands she would point to her mouth meaning kissing, then point to her breast for some breast play, finally point sa baba, sa keps for dyug na. Systematic daw mga Pinoy: 1, 2, 3 tapos na. Hehehe.
If you consider yourself a primadonna in bed and still get what you want then you are indeed lucky! Your man knows how to please you, your needs cum first. *wink*

hany_nany I read this guy's blog. He's got 4 blogs: 1 about techie stuff, 1 about the news he reads, 1 about is sexual preference and 1 about funny sex bits. I saw his post about the book so I decided to share this bit of info here. I enjoy his blogs and I like the way he writes esp about sex and his sexual preference. He is pansexual btw.

She Comes First

Everyone should read this book by Ian Kerner She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. I still have to read the book. I heard it's been getting rave reviews from a lot of people: from the New York Times to some feminist clubs.

From what I've read so far, this book is about Ian's quest to make a woman cum first. He apparently has become good at giving oral service that he's made a book out of it. I hope Filipino men would read this. A lot of Pinoys are really bad when it comes to sex, and a lot of Pinays are not aware that sex should be pleasurable for them, not a task or obligation.

Here is an excerpt from the book:

When describing sex in the proverbial locker-room, men tend to employ the language of penetration—— adjectives like "hard" and "deep." We go in, we extricate: as though pleasure was something buried deep inside her womb, a nugget to be rammed, jostled and liberated with the powerful male tool.
Rare is the man who says, "I made love to her as subtly and lightly as a feather"; "I grazed her vulva as with the delicate wings of a butterfly"; "I barely touched her she came so hard!"
And yet such language would be more appropriate, as the inner two-thirds of the vagina are substantially less sensitive than the outer third.
Numerous studies have demonstrated that women whose lovers give them direct clitoral stimulation during sexual activity are more likely to climax consistently. But because of its location, most sexual positions do not properly stimulate the clitoris. As Shere Hite concluded, "Sex provides efficiently for male orgasm, and inefficiently for female orgasm."

Read more: She Comes First, New York Metro, Mail & Guardian Online

Am I Dominant or Submissive?

You have strong domme tendencies. You are or could
be the prime orchestrator in the bedroom. You
are in control; consistent, straightforward and
respectful.I pity the worthless Miss Nobodys
who dare disobey your direct orders.


Are you Dominant or Submissive?
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To Blu

Last Sunday's My Favorite Line on Philippine Star caught my eye. It's from The Breakup Diaries by Maya Calica:

"At some point you will learn that no matter how hard you play by the rules, make all the right moves, and try to be the Ms. Perfect, you don't always get the results you hope for."

My cuz and I discussed how we prayed for the right man to come into our lives but we still got duds. I remember asking for signs that would make me realize that he's not the one, but I was blinded by love, there were signs yet I refused to see them. There was one time I prayed that if he and I were not meant to be then the Lord would find a way out for me from the relationship and that He would remove the love that I felt for him. The Lord did find a way out for me but removing the love I felt was hard. I still ended up accepting him inspite of all the things he did to me. Then when he lied to me again I was mad at the Lord for letting him back into my life. I blamed Him for introducing him to me in the first place.

Funny, when you're in that position, you refuse to see the truth. I knew then that by praying this way, I won't get the right answer. But I kept praying this way, still hoping my prayer would work. You know what's wrong with this prayer? By asking God to give you the "right man" or showing you "signs" or asking Him to do things for you, you are saying "God, I don't want to be responsible for my palpak choices so I leave everything up to You. If something goes wrong, hindi ko kasanalan ok?" We may not say thing verbatim but this is really what we want to happen: we don't want to be responsible for our actions.

Being Godly, or religious or prayerfull or spiritual doesn't make anyone of us better or won't spare us from making the wrong choices or getting hurt by other people. God has given all of us free will, so we would make our own decisions. We have the capacity to make the right choices, to do what's best for us. Of course we are allowed to make mistakes, we are only human. Yun lang, praying or being a good girl doesn't guarantee us a happy life. Specially if we think good things will happen to us by doing good deeds.

We have people around us who support us and give us a different perspective of things, but we don't want to listen to them because we think they don't want us to be happy. When someone gives us a valuable piece of advice, if it doesn't feel good or it doesn't fit the picture we see through our rose colored spectacles, we dismiss it as paninira or unimportant.
How many times have I tried to warn you na duda ako sa kanya? Hindi ba when your sister gave you a piece of advice nagalit ka and you said she doesnt understand you and she doesnt want you to be happy? Natangsit ka gamin. I told you not to get intouch with him anymore but you did. You called him up and what did he do to you? He hung up on you and he kept rejecting your call. I don't want to have to say to you "I told you so..."

You know why the same thing happened to both of us? To teach us a lesson, to open our eyes. Dasal tayo ng dasal pero hindi naman natin binubuksan mga mata natin sa katotohanan at wala naman tayong ginagawa to make things right. There were signs but we refused to accept them since these signs were telling us what we didn't want to know, they were telling us of impending doom that we couldn't accept, so we had to suffer. Sabi ni Lord, "Ayaw mo makinig? Puwes, magdusa ka!" Tough love works for us because we are stubborn. We learn things the hard way.

I hope may natutunan ka sa nangyari sa iyo. I know I sound like making sermon but I just want you to learn this now, I'm afraid he might show up and ask you back tapos tanggapin mo sya. Mahihirapan ka lang. Don't make the same mistakes I made. You might end up tough and bitter.



No Man is worth a womans tears. The only one whos worth her tears is the one who knows he could but would never, ever make her cry.