Tuesday, January 25, 2005

Sex and Consequence Part 3

The next day, the day after she sent that message, I saw Mia online and we started talking.
"Ate any news on the hilot?" she asked.
"Ay wala, 90s pa kasi yon eh and I don't know where my friend is anymore. Why don't you ask students? I'm sure there is someone who knows someone. You want to talk? May free line ka ba dyan?"
"Ay wala po. Punta na lang ako sa Singapore next week."
"Bakit sa SG? Ano meron don?" I asked.
"Don ako magpapaopera, legal abortion :-( don. May iba bang option na safe?"
"Ano sabi ng BF mo?"
"He doesn't know about this."
Ok, I told myself. "Bakit di mo sinabi?"
"I don't want him to worry."
"Hay naku! Don't you think he has every right to know?"
"Here's the thing ate--"
I cut her with, "That's his kid too! Is he still married?"
"--This thing happened before he came here... Hindi sya ang tatay, " she added.
Hmm... Interesting... "Ayus! Si Kiko?" I said that thinking that they met August last year and surely, Kiko is the type of guy who wouldn't let a chance pass.
"But we weren't officially on before sya pumunta dito eh, I wanted to wait till we met," referring to her BF.
"Well nandyan na yan. I'll ask around. When do you plan to go to SG?"
"Monday or Tuesday next week. The cost will be $800 to $1,000."
"Why don't you try Bangkok? I heard mura at maganda ang healthcare facilities and services don," I suggested.
"Wala ako nakita don eh." Then she asked, "Do you think I can still get pregnant?"
I wasn't sure how to answer this so I quoted the doctor, "Ang sabi sa akin nakakanipis ng matres at ovaries yung gamot, possible complications yan. Pero kung maayos ang abortion mo wala sigurong magigin problema. Basta walang infection or blood poisoning."
"Syet! And I had 17... Do you think may remedy pa ito? Magkakaanak pa kaya ako nito?"
I was quiet.
Then she said, "Kagagahan ko kasi eh! I'm willing to spend just to make sure nothing would go wrong anymore. Sayang ang lahi ng BF ko eh. Hehehe."
I laughed. "Bruha ka! Next time magiingat ka! Hahaha!"
"Hay naku ate pagnalaman mo kung sinong tatay baka mainis ka!"
Uh-huh... "Sino? Si Kiko?" He was the only logical choice since he was the BF who came here a few months before she met her American BF.
"It's Dindo. Syet! It only happened once, nadale pa ako!"
I was floored! "You had unprotected sex with Dindo?? What if he's sick??" Dindo actively "dates" a lot of women. He was dating a girl named Annie before he met Mia, and I'm sure he was able to get jiggy with her because he was able to convince her to use her credit card to buy once of those high tech Sony Ericsson phones on installment. Well, Annie may not have gotten pregnant but she's baon sa utang because of that cellphone he never paid. "Di mo alam kung saan nagsawsaw ang etits non!"
"Pati yon papacheck ko na rin. Syet!"
"When do you plan to tell your BF this?" This is the trickiest part, telling her BF.
"I'm planning on telling him before I leave for SG. I might bend the truth a little."
I was adamant, "Are you sure that's a good idea? You could just tell him it happened before you met him. That's the truth anyway. Tell him when it's already over."
"If I bleed now should I still go to SG?"
"Well if that happens then go straight to the ER, that's the break you've been waiting for. D&C ka na nila agad dito."
"I'm hoping for the best. Prayers katapat nito."
"You have to accept the consequences of your actions," I added.
"I know ate. Thanks ha."
I don't know why she thanked me, "Sus! Wala yon. Just keep intouch. I'll still ask around."
"Sobrang bait mo sa akin."
"Basta be good na!"

This was our last real conversation. Days later she asked me if it's possible for her to just approach a doctor and tell the doctor what she has done so he would hopefully do a D&C on her. I asked my doctor cousin and her hubby and they were shocked with her story. My doctor cousin said, "If after 17 pills and she didn't bleed then the baby is meant to be born. You can't mess with nature." In effect she wouldnt do anything to terminate the pregnancy even after 17 pills. My other cousin said she should get the abortion since the baby will definitely be born with major defects but her sister was firm on the idea that Mia should go on with it, she should face the consequences. So I texted Mia and told her that I don't think there is a doctor who would be willing to say he/she will give her an abortion.
The next msg I got from her was a few days later. She said she will be going to SG that week and she needed $1,000 for her trip but she can only spare $500 because her brother would need the money for tuition. I wasn't able to respond to that message, she sent this 2 weeks ago.

Haven't heard from her since.

(To be continued...)


masterbetong said...

a man's point of view:

why should it be just a woman's burden when something odd happends? That fateful night were shared by two people, a man & a woman, the pleasure was shared by two people, kets isa lang ang dadama ng pain? Isn't it ironic? Don't u think?

fionski said...

I like your username Masterbetong hehehe. Thanks for taking the time to read and post a comment. I would also like to thank Mari, Cerridwen, MommyBa, Apol and most specially, the ever active ANONYMOUS. I've been so busy lately that I haven't had the chance to blog and read blogs. Hirap pala maging homemaker, paano na kaya pag nag asawa at nagka anak ako! Hahaha!

DigiscrapMom said...

Know what? In any case she bleeds and she's rushed to the ER and the staff learns about the intentional abortion, her case will be filed on blotter by the hospital and she'll have a derogatory record with the NBI. This is already SOP with hospitals as of date (at least with public hospitals - I just don't know with private ones).

I'll be waiting for the continuation...I'll keep my thoughts to myself first.

Drama Queen Amrie said...

ako po si anonymous (well, most of it). tamd lang po maglog-in.

anyway, kamusta na kaya siya. sana naman ay okay siya. nakakalungkot na kailangan pang umabot sa ganoon ang sitwasyon niya...

-Teresa- said...

Hi there! your story is riveting. I coudn't wait to read the end. I hope your friend is doing ok. I look forward to your next post and hopefully the news about her condition is comforting. I don't want to judge, but my personal thing on this issue is: be responsible with your actions. Some women prefer pre-marital sex, this to me is a personal decision, and if they decide to actively practice it, the least they can do is protect themselves. And when they find themselves in your friend's situation, the most they can do is face the consequence. I won't wish any woman to have the same dilemna as your friend, I'm sure she is so much stressed right now. I hope if she loses the baby she will still have the chance to conceive when she is finally ready. And if it's too late for her to lose the fetus, I hope it will come out normal and healthy. Keep us posted!

Anonymous said...

hey, that's almost a great way to earn $500. =)